Monday, November 7, 2011

Gay marriage

Gay marriage. Well.

I was a little unsure if this would be a suitable topic to highlight how issues that were of little concern in the past can overrun agendas in modern times.

A disclaimer: I have no problem with homosexuality, and I do in fact strongly believe that there should be an option for such unions for people in all walks of society.

I cite the example of Kim Kardashian’s 72 day marriage that commanded such needless attention, compared to a homosexual couple that may have been together for many decades without the same option.

A ridiculous state of affairs.

My fly in the ointment, however, is that modern society has enabled what was previously somewhat taboo to be mainstream, perhaps even encouraged in some regards.

Modern music videos are rife with debauchery that border on soft-core pornography; much of which depicts homosexual behaviour to children from an early age.

That’s sounding like a prude, but compared to several decades ago, it certainly wasn’t the norm like it is today, and it’s impossible to say what effect this is having on the developmental stages in children.

As the old adage goes, sex sells, and it certainly applies to music.

Selling anything through either homosexuality or heterosexuality is insulting to everyone’s intelligence, whether they are gay, straight, or bi.

The plus side perhaps is that it makes it easier for young people to accept their own sexuality if it’s more normalised; which in the past was, and mostly still is, a daunting task to admit to themselves, let alone parents and peers.

In the grand scheme of things, orientation doesn’t matter at all.

But society isn’t perfect, and there’s one last lingering issue the gay and lesbian community wants to vehemently see through: gay marriage.

Probably more so than the adoption of children or IVF treatment for lesbian couples as marriage is a highly symbolic flagship issue.

It’s important to point out at this point that this is certainly not an issue exclusive to the left of politics.

Although, you’d be hard pressed to find conservative politicians on the right, ala Bob Katter in Australia, who would accept gay marriage into their policy for fear of upsetting their constituency.

Some would even go so far as to chastise homosexuality outright given half a chance.

But with all due respect, gay marriage has turned into one of those issues that recently became ‘sexy’ for the left that they can ride continuing waves of popularity on.

On Q&A, Australia’s open floor political discussion program on the ABC, along with the carbon tax, gay marriage absolutely dominates discussion, indicative of what is going on in the broader political discussion.

All other pressing issues, like homelessness, health, education, financial stresses and so on all become thrown to the curb.

In short, you can’t eat gay marriage.

If you ask a young gay man or woman whom they will be voting for, it invariably becomes whoever will legalise gay marriage – which is somewhat disparaging.

It’s disparaging because it’s become the single issue that can have the absolute hell politicised out of it, and it would be foolish to think leftish politicians are unable to capitalise upon it.

It’s a sure way into buying the youth vote.

An example would be the Green’s senator Sarah Hanson-Young twittering live from the Sydney Gay & Lesbian Mardi Gras, encouraging and pledging support for gay marriage.

The outward impression I garnered is that the parade itself was never exactly focused on such docile and buttoned-down things as marriage.

Broadly speaking, we live in a society that is completely obsessed with sex and sexuality - you’re not in the game if you’re not getting down and dirty with as many different people in the shortest humanly possible time.

Human sexuality has largely been dissected, repackaged and resold to us, and it’s become somewhat skewed as to what constitutes 'normal' sexual behaviour.

In heterosexual relationships there’s evidence that suggests men are becoming increasingly demanding of their partners to act out what they’ve seen in pornography.

So is gay marriage about marriage, which is supposed to function as a means for two people to make a home together suitable to raising children, showing love and affection, and uniting their lives, or is it becoming purely a sexuality issue?

Without making grand assumptions, I’d hazard a guess that the gay and lesbian community would feel more comfortable with themselves if the marriage option were on the table somewhere down the line.

It’s certainly a giant wedge used by both sides of the argument.

We regularly see television spots where gay advocates will cite examples and statistics from telephone polls on how the support for gay marriage is growing.

There’s great glee from everyone when Christians are seemingly onboard with anything, just look how Hill Song Church is courted during election time, for example.

Of course, those that participate in such polls are already those that would look at the issue favourably. 

Just as with all issues, whether it is gay marriage or anything else that generates controversy, the silent majority is ignored.

Anyone who disagrees with the proposition would immediately be labelled a bigot, so who wouldn’t want to agree with them?

And again, it’s largely applicable to all issues the left concerns itself with in modern times. Anyone who disagrees with anything from them is either sexist or racist and deemed to have an uneducated opinion.

Gay marriage is a subject that is dangerously easy to degenerate and disregard as something that will simply go away if we ignore it.

But can you imagine the outrage tomorrow if it were announced a referendum was being held on the issue? 

Then imagine the total outrage if the referendum failed.

In time for all things. There's a long way to go in even just removing discrimination, let alone the prized pig of marriage.

At least the debate has grown up from when it was seen as yet another freak show on Jerry Springer.

I’m going to be cheeky and say that as a lefty concerned with other matters, I can’t honestly support either side, and I’m a little discouraged that it’s overtaken much of our political discussion, as if it's the only problem we're facing.

Weddings are expensive affairs, financially and emotionally, especially if and when they fail. 

I’d dare say the marriage and divorce industry would be smiling favourably if they had a new market open to them.

Now that's true equality.

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